One of the most significant theories created by the gottman institute is the sound relationship housein dr john gottmans book the seven principles for making marriage work those seven principles are connected to each level or floor of the sound relationship house those levels are build love maps share fondness and admiration. Dr gottmans term for getting to know your partners world is called build love maps think of it this way when you choose to spend your life with someone you hand them a map to your inner world your inner world is of course quite complex including the memories of your past the details of your present your hopes for the future. 47 48 50 51 52 53 54 55 56 58 59 60 61 62 6 61 what is your partner currently most sad about what is one of your partners concerns or worries. John m gottman phd and nan silver exercise 1 the love map 20 questions game play this game together in the spirit of laughter and gentle fun the more you play the more youll learn about the love maps concept and how to apply it to you own relationship step 1 each of you should take a piece of paper and pen or pencil together